How to avoid blaming while not excusing ourselves

It’s so easy to point the finger at other people and their faults.

Guess what?

I’m not going to say what you think I’m going to say.

I’m not going to say that we have to ignore the harm others have done to us. After all, we do suffer the consequences of other people’s bad choices. Sometimes other people are responsible. However, I would suggest that allowing their actions to cause us to be bitter, discouraged, hopeless and less than what we could be is bad.

But don’t use the word “blame”. It’s an excuse word. Not for them, for us.

We need never allow other people’s choices impact us in a damaging way.

When we do allow those destructive choices to get in our way,  we become weak and ineffective.

And it is when we are weak and effective, that the Enemy (depression, anxiety, doubt, insecurity, fear,etc.) steps in. (I do believe in an Evil entity called Satan but I also believe that more times than not, we give him far more credit than he deserves. It is not true that “the devil made me do it”.)

Instead, we should:

ask God to clear a path for us every time we are tempted to let the actions of others direct our future

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

Rebecca

Hi. I'm so glad you're here. My blog focuses on faith and mental health issues such as mood disorders like depression, anxiety, and dysthymia (chronic low moods that don't qualify as depression.) I post DIY and decorating projects when I can. My book, "Depression Has A Big Voice. Make Yours Bigger! (Expanded Edition), is on sale at all online retailers. I have a Psychology degree and post-graduate courses in Clinical Pastoral Education. I am a former hospital chaplain, Bible teacher, and retreat/conference inspirational speaker. Thank you for visiting and may you feel God's presence today.

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