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The epidemic of loneliness in America.Part two

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Personality traits attributing to loneliness

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Loneliness can be experienced for a variety of reasons, and individual factors can play a significant role. Some potential individual factors that may contribute to loneliness include:

Shyness, introversion, or social anxiety

Individuals who struggle with shyness, introversion, or social anxiety may find it difficult to initiate conversations or participate in social activities, which can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. We’ve all known people we would call “wallflowers.” They have a difficult time making social connections. Shy individuals may find it difficult to initiate and maintain social connections, leading to feelings of loneliness.

And social anxiety certainly limits our ability to make social connections. But social anxiety can be overcome. I know, because I have. I’ve never liked social situations, but I’ve learned how to manage them. I try to find someone standing alone and make conversation with them. I arrive early so I don’t have to walk into a large group.

Low self-esteem

People with low self-esteem may believe that they are unworthy of social connections, which can lead to withdrawing from social situations and feeling lonely.

Lack of social skills

Individuals who lack social skills may find it challenging to build and maintain meaningful relationships with others, which can lead to feelings of loneliness. I’ve known a number of people who fall into this category. They are very apt to feel lonely and oftentimes have not been bought up with good social skills. They found it difficult to develop them as an adult.

Obnoxious people

Some people are lonely because, well, they’re obnoxious. You know who I mean. We all know someone like this. These people cause their own loneliness because we avoid contact with these people. I can think of someone I knew like this. Everyone thought he was obnoxious, arrogant, and a braggart. He was.

But remember, people like this are almost always very needy people. It was the case with this person as well. I can say the more I got to know them, the more they dropped their defenses, and I got to see a basically good person. We are now friends.

Mental health conditions and loneliness

Certain mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder, can contribute to feelings of loneliness and isolation.

It’s important to note that experiencing these individual factors does not mean that someone will inevitably experience loneliness. However, addressing these factors can be an important step in reducing feelings of loneliness and building fulfilling relationships.

Depression and anxiety can both make dealing with loneliness much harder. When we are depressed, we very often withdraw from people. The more we withdraw, the lonelier we feel. The same with anxiety. and a vicious cycle begins.

Also, there is still such a stigma surrounding mental illness. People who struggle with it are often uncomfortable being around other people because they fear being judged. This continues the cycle.

Overall, mental health support services offer a variety of resources and tools to help individuals address their feelings of loneliness and improve their mental health. If you or someone you know is experiencing loneliness, it is important to seek support from a mental health professional.

Many people view loneliness as a personal failure rather than a natural human emotion that can arise from a variety of circumstances. It’s important to recognize that loneliness is not a weakness or character flaw and that seeking help or support is a sign of strength and self-awareness.

Environmental factors and loneliness

Loneliness can have a significant impact on mental health and well-being. It can be caused by a variety of factors, including environmental factors such as living in a remote or isolated area.

In addition to social isolation, environmental factors such as air pollution, noise pollution, and lack of access to green spaces can also contribute to feelings of loneliness and negatively impact mental health.


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Studies have shown that spending time in nature and engaging in outdoor activities can help reduce feelings of loneliness and improve overall mental health.

Studies have shown that spending time in nature and engaging in outdoor activities can help reduce feelings of loneliness and improve overall mental health. Additionally, efforts to improve air and noise pollution and increase access to green spaces can have a positive impact on community well-being and reduce the prevalence of loneliness. Without green spaces, we don’t have an additional opportunity to interact with people.

It’s important for individuals and communities to recognize the role that environmental factors can play in loneliness and prioritize efforts to address these issues. Loneliness and environmental factors are closely intertwined, as the environment that we live in can greatly affect our social connections. Living in a densely populated city can make it harder to form meaningful connections with others, as people are often too busy to stop and chat. But in green spaces, people seem to slow down and engage in conversation with others.

Technology: the most significant of all

Loneliness is a growing concern in today’s society, and technology has both positive and negative impacts on this issue. We all know this. At its best, technology can help people connect with loved ones who are far away through video calls, messaging apps, and social media. No one denies this. Technology can be great if used correctly. But there is a dark side. as well.

Excessive use

Excessive use of technology can also lead to social isolation and a lack of face-to-face interaction, which can exacerbate feelings of loneliness. Social media can sometimes create a false sense of connection, as people may present a curated version of their lives that doesn’t accurately reflect reality. The fear of missing out (FOMO) s a very real problem.

I’ve been there. Nothing makes you feel lonelier than thinking everybody, but you are having fun. Or that everybody but you has family around all the time.

A step further

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But technology has gained even a stronger foothold since the epidemic. We learned through the epidemic how to order our groceries, visit our doctor, “attend” church, order our meals, and get just about everything we need without ever leaving our homes. Oh, and order our coffee drinks from our apps. Sure, some of this was done prior to Covid, but it has almost become a lifestyle now-a destructive one at that. One guaranteed to cause loneliness.

Believe it or not, shopping in a brick-and-mortar store is good for us. It really does help to lessen the feelings of loneliness. We interact with people, and that alone makes a difference., even if they are strangers. It’s important we don’t adopt a lifestyle of seclusion which is never good for anyone.

Natural disasters and loneliness

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Seriously, I can’t imagine how utterly lonely and alone someone might feel if their home has just been destroyed. I mean living in a shelter, or someone’s home. Losing everything, memories in pictures, kid’s crayon pictures, the items bought on vacation that reminded you of a wonderful time., the heirlooms handed down to you that you held fondly on occasion.

By understanding the ways in which environmental factors can impact loneliness, we can work to create more supportive and connected communities.

Gun violence and loneliness

Surely, we can see the connection between the rise of gun violence and the part loneliness played. None of the perpetrators had healthy relationships. They were living under a cloud of loneliness, socially isolated from everyone. I’m not suggesting for one minute that something as simple as their engagement with others would’ve stopped them, but I’m not saying it couldn’t have, either.

Haven’t you been in public at times when you were feeling sad or lonely, and some stranger says something or even just smiles, and your spirits are lifted? Well, we all need to be that stranger in someone else’s life. Surely, we can all do that. Surely, as Christians, it should be how we live our lives daily. We never know when someone who crosses our path could be in a moment of crisis where our interaction with them can literally be lifesaving.


Loneliness is serious, and it’s on the rise. I’m sure there is much more to be said and written about it. It’s important to remember that we all feel lonely now and then. When we do, it’s important not to let it morph into something else by dwelling on it.

But if it continues, there’s more going on, and we might need some help. It can be a good friend, a pastor, or a mental health professional. To let it go untreated may well to social isolation, which isn’t good for anyone.

God bless and have a good day.